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writes:I have a friend who lets her kids (a boy age 12 and a girl age 8) walk around the house naked. I have watched the kids on occasion, and they had been naked when I got there and their mother never told them to get dressed. Is this a problem? It didn't make me uncomfortable and obviously their mother (my friend)and the kids were not uncomfortable either, but at what age should a child be told to cover up? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 June 2013):
 some people are just more comfortable being nude than others.
usually kids when they hit puberty get body shy and cover up but if it's not the custom at home to cover up then they may not learn that shyness.
I had a friend once who had a young son who prefered to be nude.... before I went over the first time she asked me "do you mind naked little boys?" had I said yes she would have asked him to cover up... since I had sons myself and he was about 6 at the time I said NO PROBLEM... we were friends for a while and after a few months he got over his wanting to be naked all the time.
In the privacy of their own home they do not have to be told to cover up. I'm going to assume the children are properly dressed for school and other outings and therefore are learning the social norms for being in public.
to each his own.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 June 2013):
 I would honestly, be uncomfortable watching other people's kids who at those ages were running around the house nude. Now I get that if they are walking from bathroom to their own room after a shower, that I don't see the problem at all.
And in general, I think it's great for kids not being ashamed of their bodies, but at 8 and 12 they "should" have a sense of modesty that would want them to wear clothes in front of "strangers". Usually that occur around 5-7. Having grown up in Denmark (with nude beaches and the likes) I was raised with nudity not being a big deal, YET I don't recall anyone at that age running around naked (not in their houses and not at the beach).
And this is not just about modesty, it's about privacy too and limits to what is "socially" acceptable.
So unless they live in a nudist colony, I think it's about time they start to wear clothes at home. YET, this has to be their mom decision (or their own) But you can tell her, he, if you want me to watch your kids would you mind telling that to wear clothes?
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reader, dishy doll  +, writes (25 June 2013):
Like it or not it IS a problem in most people's eyes. I really think there is something instinctive within us that says cover up or at least when you are an adult. Boy should put clothes on and the girl very soon or they should in my book!!!
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