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*ainbowBrite
writes:I am dating someone who is very accomplished and quite literally brilliant. While I have above average intelligence, I have no education nor anything that I have accomplished or am really good at. Long story short : I became a mom at age 19 and went through 2 abusive relationships. Needles to explain, my life got put on hold for the last 10 years. I had intended on meeting the person of my dreams after I had accomplished a couple of my goals but I met this person and there is just no going back. I am terrified that I am going to lose her when I am older and not so young and pretty. (she is crazy about me because of many reasons but she is so wrapped up in how pretty she thinks I am. I think that this is the most important thing to her.)Should I worry that I may lose her to someone who is just as pretty but more intelligent? Does intelligence matter in a relationship? The chemistry between us is romance novel worthy!!! But we don't live together and we only see each other a few times a week. When the honeymoon stage wears off...what should I do?There are a few reasons that I may not accomplish what I wanted to in life and I am worried that she may lose respect for me someday. Even though I am loyal, honest and hard-working. Reply to this Question
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reader, RainbowBrite +, writes (3 March 2013):
RainbowBrite is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know that those who tell me to just enjoy the moment are exactly right. I do tend to get caught up in worry. Thank you for that encouragement :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 February 2013):
 she is with you because of who you are NOW, not what you may become....
how about if you relax and enjoy the ride for as long as it's good?
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (26 February 2013):
 It shouldn't matter theres no threat really you are what she desires. If in the long run you keep javing this thought it may cause problems in the relationship called doubt. I was involved with someone not all that great looking and not many.accomplishments it didnt work out. Its good there's physical attraction thats highly important whether people like to be honest of.that. Its not she thinks you pretty she knows you are so why worry this is not something to concern yourself with.
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