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writes:Im single and so he is. It's always been more than just friends, we 'sext' all the time. He wants us to have sex but doesn't like talking about a relationship. He's not a virgin but i am. Should i wait for the relationship that might not happen or just go for it and see how far it could go? Reply to this Question
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (30 January 2011):
If you want a boyfriend and he wants just sex. You should end this now. Otherwise you will regret in the future having lost your virginity with someone who didn't love you. You can read a lot of such stories here.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (30 January 2011):
 The problem is, this guy sees you as a possibly easy lay.
You are a girl, who without much pressure is "sexting" him. You are not in a relationship, yet you still send him sexy text messages in an attempt to get him off - as a masturbation aid im guessing?
The fact you do this, all he sees you as is someone to give him sex. He doesnt want a relationship, he doesnt want you, he doesnt respect you. You just give him what he wants. And he thinks you will give him sex, as easily as you give him sexy text messages.
My advice. STOP "sexting" this guy. By doing this you are giving out so may signals that suggest you are "easy" even if you are not.
If you want a relationship, then do not do this type of thing with random guys who are only friends. It will not get you respect, and it will not get you a nice caring boyfriend.
Good luck!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 January 2011):
 Wait for the relationship. It is clear that all he wants is to have sex with you, and if you think by having sex with him will make him want a relationship with you you'll be very wrong, he will soon give up once he gets what he wants and you will be left feeling used and abused.
Losing your virginity is a big step in life and if you dont lose it to someone that you respect and are in a relationship with then you will regret it. Wait until you are in a loving relationship and wait for the guy that will respect you and take his time with you and wait until you are ready. If you just have sex with this guy to get it over and done with you will sourly regret it for the rest of your life.
Therefore tell him you are not interested in being someones sex toy and that you are waiting until some guy comes along that treats you well and with respect. Keep your head held high and remember you are worth so much more than someones sex toy. Goodluck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): Wait for a real relationship. It will happen and it will be worth it. This guy is just going to use you and dump you most likely. Take care.
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