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*ergi6777
writes:If a girl I've been dating for over a week is having a sexual identity crisis and isn't forthcoming about it, what should I do? She had been postponing/cancelling dates, lying, promising to call but not calling, and stringing me along. The last time we spoke (which was after a week of silence) she said that she's unsure of her feelings, but that she definitely wants me in her life and that I'm a really good guy and that she feels bad for the way she's been treating me. However, since that heart-to-heart phone call, she, again, has failed to call me to set a get-together date as promised and we haven't spoken in nearly 4 days. When I asked her if she sure she wants to hang out with me, she said "I definitely want to." Even if she just wants to be friends like she's implying, is this how you would treat a friend or any human being that you like for that matter? Should I continue to wait for her to call like last time or should I just call her? Should I even believe anything she says the next time she calls? Reply to this Question
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (28 July 2008):
 seems this situation is causing you problems that you dont need.. if she is having this crisis then she is in no fit state to be in a relationship till she sorts herself out and their is no time limit on when that will be..shes not being respectful to you so i think you should wait for her to come to you as a *friend* and look in the pond else were..is she what you really want as more than a friendship unreliable, lying, stringning you along and so forth. she seems to be treating you like a door mat your better than that so pick yourself up and go have a fish in the pond see if you can get something better than an old boot :), maybe throw the boot away lol. i think for now your on wishful thinking anything is going to happen, so i would maybe keep a friend spot for her but not a gf one move on to better pastures i say.. other than that have a talk with her tell her your sick of the way shes treating you.. your choice.. hope that helps aphex xx good luck
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