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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I have been dating a guy for about 2 months now. Sex has come up and I have stated that I will not have intercourse until we are in an exclusive relationship. At the beginning of the week, he has said that he likes me a lot, and that he 'needs to put some things in order' before we can be exclusive. Yesterday he said it will take some time because various plans are interfering with that. He is busy this weekend getting ready for Gen Con, next week is Gen Con, and there is another con the week after. I know no details about what he means by putting affairs in order. I am guessing he is/was dating someone not in the immediate area and he feels the need to talk to her in person... but that is just a guess.I like him, and I think he isn't the type to purposefully lead me on. He has not ever pressured me into going past the boundries I have set. However, I am not feeling comfortable in this situation. It puts us in a kind of limbo that I don't necessarily know how to deal with.I have ended everything with the guy who needed to be told in person. I haven't started or continued anything with anyone else. I feel like 3 weeks is a long time to wait. So I don't know what I should do.Does this mean that he might have some feelings for this girl and is having a hard time letting go?Should I go out on dates with other guys?Should I stop seeing this guy until he can get his affairs in order?Any advice, comments and etc are appreciated. Thank you in advance.
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reader, romany  +, writes (31 July 2010):
 gggrrrr, pressed to enter button instead of back space....
Anyway, continue'd..... you'll not have a women scorned, texting and calling, and you'll be able to start what hopefully could become the best things ever......3 weeks is nothing, be patient.
Good luck
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reader, romany +, writes (31 July 2010):
I admire your values and restraint, well done, However, you've given it to him straight and he's told you yes, so that means, yes.
The stuff going round your head, complicating this situation is all conjecture, and your not exclusive yet, so respectfully i say, Its none of your business, once you are exclusive, then it is.
If needing time does mean that he needs to end another 'dating' relationship with someone, then what a top guy your getting, I'd have been more concerned about him, if you'd said, he was gonna call or text this girl, he is respectful enough to tell her, when that is done,he will feel closure, you'll not have a women test
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