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writes:Ok, I'll try to make this as short as possible because it's a pretty lengthy story.There's this girl that I like and apparently she liked me too. She would always compliment me and want me to talk to her. She would also playfully poke me at times. One day I talked her up and wanted to know if she liked restuarant and eating out. She said yes with a smile. I was planning on asking her out the next day so I just wanted to test the water before I did it. Ok, there's this OTHER girl that seems to like me as well. The only thing is that I don't fancy her the same way. She and I have been friends for a while, longer than I have known the girl that I fancy. She has made it apparent that she likes me and I guess she was probably waiting for me to ask her out someday. Here's the kicker. Both of these girls are friends with eachother.Now the next day, I did ask the girl that I liked out. I asked if she would like to go out and she said yes. I also asked if I could have her number and she gave it to me. At the time, I really weren't paying attention (Mainly because I was too excited about taking my crush out) but now that I've thought about it, her friend (the girl that likes me) was standing nearby the whole time, close enough to hear us and far enough that I didn't notice her. Well later that night, I tried calling her but no body picked up or replied to my texts. The following day, I tried to asked her what was wrong but she totally blew me off and gave me the cold shoulder. She did this for the continuing week until I gave up entirely on trying to talk to her. I let the situation escape my mind until one of my friends mentioned that a certain girl was spreading rumors about me (the girl that liked me). She told my guy friend that I was interested in her and that I flirt with her a lot, something that I never did.Now here's my problem. Something tells me that she had something to do with the girl going completely cold on me. I feel that it's unfair because I really liked her. I contemplated explaining to her that whatever she heard might not be true but I'm also angry that she would believe something about me if it came from someone else instead of asking me directly. What should I do? Ps, I don't talk to the girl anymore after I heard that she was spreading rumors behind my back.
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reader, w8stland +, writes (2 September 2012):
Hello, it sounds like the girl who liked you made up lies to her friend out of jealousy. She wanted you to ask HER out, not her friend. She probably thought that since she knew you longer and such, that she might have a chance. So when she found out about you and her friend, of course she was upset. Who wouldn't be? Put two and two together, it's obvious the other girl had something to do with her friend blowing you off. And to be honest, it's messed up for her to do so, without even offering you an explanation as to why she won't take your calls. My advice is to just leave it alone. I understand you really like this girl, but if the friend is causing drama BEFORE you even went out with the girl, then imagine what would happen if and when the two of you become serious. She's always going to be there, trying to possibly cause trouble and bring your relationship down.
Also, if any girl is willing to listen to her friend's lies and blow you off without warning, and if she doesn't even have enough decency to hear you out, then she's not someone you should chase after. Best of luck!
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