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writes:My husband and I married almost a year ago. Prior to marriage he was in the Navy.. We slipped and got pregnant and he begged for an abortion.. (No way i could do it) He told me daily he didn't want our baby and didn't want to be stuck in Fl. He wanted to go back to his home state in Indiana and he knew i wouldn't go with him. Well for 4-5 months he did nothing but pushed me away and i always just dealt with it and stuck it out.. He sent me an email saying how he won't be there for me and that he wanted to go into the Army after his tour in the Navy (his time was coming close to an end), so i went on a date with this guy and told him about it. I went out once and didn't kiss or cuddle with the dude just went and ate.. well a private investigator got in touch with me this week because of a lawsuit his dad is in and the P.I. let me hear phone conversations (there lines were tapped) my husband has done nothing but bash me to his entire family and he finally confessed to me that he resents me for being here in Fl. He also says he resents me for going on the date and he resents me for sooo many things. I admit i'm not perfect and i have taken full ownership of mistakes and forgave him for his.. I don't dwell on things that happened so long ago.. I honestly look at right now and tmr.. i listen to why he did the things he did and i understand why he did it.. i may not agree with it but i can understand it and move on.. he says he can't and wont understand why i've done things and he just can't let it go.. the P.I. let me hear about 60 clips (few seconds each) and every single one of them was someone in his family telling him to leave me, I'm a mean person, no one likes me, it won't phase our daughter, and a lot more.. Should I even try to fix this or realize he won't get over the past and he'll resent me forever??? (mostly everything that happened that he was concerned about happened 3 years ago)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2011): He called me in hopes of pissing me off to give him "info" on the case.. I don't know anything about it and could careless really.. He told me if I gave him the info he wanted he would give me what i wanted and let me hear clips from the conversations.. As far as making it up.. not in my wildest dreams.. We all have spoke with the proper people and found it that a P.I. or detective or whoever can legally tap phone lines they just have to get a judge's approval.. and since the case is in the supreme court a judge would more than likely approve.. it's a form that be filled out.. as far as him giving me the info the lawyers said no crime in that.. It is def wrong but no crime.. I'm really not sure if it's a P.I. or not.. i just call him that because his voice was masked over and an unknown number.. we called our phone company and there is no way of finding out if a phone is tapped..
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (10 July 2011):
And why are you still in this "relationship"? SERIOUSLY - what is keeping you in this??? You need to either get into counciling with this guy, or divorce him. You're young, and you have time to rebuild your life. PLEASE do not waste critical years gutting this out - divorce him, and move on.
Find someone who LOVES and respects you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2011): This doesn't sound right at all.
A PI has no authority to share this information with you and it is highly illegal to tap someone's phone without a court order. This would only be allowed in very serious criminal cases and even then one of the parties to the conversation should know about it.
Either you are making things up or you should go to the police straight away.
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