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writes:I was in a serious relationship with a boy, lets call him Ryan, awhile back. We had sex, and things got around school about us doing so. Now that we are over, people are talking. I haven't had sex with anyone since Ryan and I broke up. I recently got close to a guy, David, just as friends. Turns out this guy likes me. After i rejected him, and I made it clear I only wanted to be friends, he decided he would start a rumor that he had sex with me. I'm dating a new guy now, named Jeff, just casually, nothing serious, and David and Jeff play football together. I'm sure you know how guy's talk in the locker room. David told Jeff abuot this rumor, and he was okay after I told him it wasn't true. I'm afriad David will say something though, and Jeff will just give up, and believe everything. I really like Jeff and don't want things to go sour. Should I just tell Jeff about my past, or wait and see what happens?
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reader, lealea  +, writes (12 August 2009):
in a relationship i believe you should be truthfull but you dont need to tell them your hole life. well untill it goes really seriouse. the guy your with at the moment i think u should exsplain to him about what happened with that guy and how u only wanted to be friends and how he took it a bad way and to tell ur bf not to listen to him or any rumours. id tell him you have had sex in the past dont need to go into detail about it though. and if ur bf starts to question these rumours and thinks they are true u now hes not right for you but if he sticks by you hes right
hope i helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): My advice is to let him get to know you, be yourself. You don't need to disclose any of your past to any love interest. If they're so shallow as to listen to rumors over what you have to say - you don't want to be in a relationship with them.If he asks, no need for detail - provide basic (and true) information. Some people disclose FAR TOO much information about their past to a lover - it can be a serious problem... so guys claim they want to know details, and then are haunted by what they learn.
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