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writes:im in a ldr. we always communinicate and have ups and down but this valentines day he send flowers and cake, but he forget my bday, and he didnt give me pressies. which is ok.but it really upset me.. and this next month, his comming over but i really feel aloof to him. like i dont like to talk as much as we do before. and he didnt ask me what i like. and what i need. he gave me a surprise gift before which i dont like .he never ask me what i want and my needs, i dont know why hes like that. i think his self centered. or now. he knew that i love him. thats why he didnt gave me something or still do courting me like he did before. i have a friend shes in a ldr too. we talk stuff about our relationships sometimes she talked about his bf. that his bf gave her and ipad and a camera. i really dont get jelous. but sometimes i think that why my bf doesnt ask me, what i like . like my friends bf. should i tell my bf about it. that im really upset why he is like i dont feel special..
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (11 March 2012):
 Agree with Ciar. Either it was ok or you were upset... it can't be both.
My fiance knows me and yet I still give him my Amazon wish list to help pick presents.
You should tell him you were hurt that he missed your birthday but you can't be mad at him for buying you gifts he thought you would like if you never talk to him about what you like and don't like.
how long have you been dating him? how far apart are you and when do you plan to end the distance?
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (11 March 2012):
 '...which is ok.but it really upset me' Which one is it?
It's not up to your boyfriend to ask what you want. It's up to you to state it. If you're as unclear with him as you are here it's hardly a wonder you're dissatisfied.
Straight forward communication is better than beating around the bush and waiting for someone to ask or guess.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2012): Are you with a boyfriend to get gifts?
As long as his gifts to you are heartfelt, then I think you should appreciate them. You said he doesn't know your needs and wants, how about you tell him yourself without waiting for him to ask. But remember, not everyone can afford iPads, cameras, laptops, etc.
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