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writes:I'm a secondary school student in the UK, aged 16. I'm leaving in June to head to college. I consider myself a pretty normal individual but I have Asperger's Syndrome which means I've matured emotionally, much too early. According to my files, I'm registered as about 22 in mental age. That's why I think I've developed feelings for a member of staff who works as a tech assistant. He's 26.It probably is a teenage crush, but I've had serious relationships and they've been flippant and the feelings were what I was expected to feel. This is new and actual. While it may be my hormones everywhere, I'm somewhat more sensible than others I have known. I don't make it obvious. We sit and eat together at dinner in the hall, and we talk about life, hobbies and his DJ work. I've learnt his favourite food, travels round the world, his allergies, his views and opinions from this. I don't fawn, or haunt his steps.I never planned to "do" anything until I was eighteen. I know the law, and we've even chatted randomly about age gaps. He said flippantly that he'd never date below eighteen when he was thirty...I'd be twenty-one.I'm not delusional and I have no expectations, I'd wait either way. But should I let him know when I leave next year? Or wait the two years and know that if he becomes attached, that it'll wound me considerably more? I would like to gauge his opinion in a non-illegal way (asking), but I'd feel such a fool. What should I do?P.G. Also, people say I only have a teenage thing for him as I've built him up in my mind as something beyond normal. But no. I just have interest in what he says and he's so funny, he makes my bad days much brighter. He's more my mental age than any other Year Eleven male student.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2010): If you are mature as you like to think, then you already know the answer to the questions you are asking as so many have already given them before to girls and guys in similar situations.
If you are indeed mature-minded, you would know that to judge an entire section of humanity based on a few in that group (namely basing an entire age bracket of males on a few blowhards) is not only illogical, but just plain stupid as well.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (11 December 2010):
 You are treading on dangerous grounds. Any teacher who gets involved with their pupil will lose their job. If you think he really does want to get serious with you, then drop him a note before you leave and let him know your feelings then. Then there won't be any embarrasing situations at school if he doesnt see you like that. It really does sound like a school girl crush although im not saying this lightly it is so common and people will tell you not to follow this through.
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