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writes:I wanna make plans to do something with this girl I like, I think She kinda likes me too but I'm not Sure yet.... Anyways I wanna ask her out but I'm afraid she'll say No or reject me, we remained friends for now, but I wanna change that... Should I tell her how I feel And ask her out? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2014): Yes you should.
OP the sooner you learn that not trying is worse than rejection and hurts for way longer the sooner you'll grow some balls.
Not trying is self-rejection and it means you'll never have a chance with a woman you want because you'll never try.
So let women be the only ones who can reject you, never reject yourself by not trying because guess what, hearing "no" is closure, it also means you tried so you can feel pride in that. Guys who don't try, never get anything, they live a life of feeling inferior and bitter that women don't just throw themselves at them.
It's time you decide what kind of man you want to be in life, the kind that gets shit done no matter how scary it is or the kind who only has memories of opportunities he never took.
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reader, femmenoir  +, writes (21 August 2014):
 Sorry to sound so brutal my friend, however, you are only between 13 & 15!! Way too young to be asking girls out.
You should just keep it simple, remain friends for as long as possible & when you're older & if you still feel the same way about her, then you should ask her out.
At your age, what do you expect to occur, even if you did get together with her now??
Are you wishing to get closer on a physical level & if your answer is "yes", then this totally validates why it would be a bad idea to ask her out.
I am assuming she is around your age group also & i am moving full frontal here, but God forbid, what if you both got carried away & she ended up pregnant @ only 13, 14, 15??!!
Don't gamble, take risks & as i said earlier, please reconsider this urge that you have & focus first & foremost on your studies.
You may ask why?
I have been there, done that & as i am in my 30s, i know full well, what i am talking about.
Spare your parents & family of any stress or any extra burdens.
You don't need a gf @ this young age, you just think you do. Big difference!
You will go through different phases & stages, as you mature, but only time will prove what i say.
By the time you are in your 30s or 40s, you'll know what you want with much more clarity & certainty, but not for now.
Have fun & enjoy your youth, as it doesn't last very long.
It is your testosterone levels talking here, believe me!
These feelings & urges are a very normal part of growing up & getting in touch with your own sexuality.
All the best & good luck! :-)
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (21 August 2014):
 ask her out but hold off on expessing your feelins as you could scare her.
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