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*lexia846
writes:I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for six years and since we have broken up I have dealt with it and decide to move on. I have seen how some guys can be so nice and I am attracted to it. one problem though my ex keeps texting me saying he wants to keep in touch and henwants us back together? My feeling though have been gone. Do you guys think ppl can change? Can he learn to appreciate me??? And should I give him a chance back even though I was heartbroken before?? I mean I saw one of my classmates being so sweet and thoughtful to his gf and I decided I wanted a man like that, but for some reason I feel guilty if I say no to my ex. Mind you I am a very self conscious person low self esteem a lot to do with him
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): Good for you. He's a scum bag and I'm glad you now see this. Ignore him and keep on keeping on. I'm glad you've thrown that rodent where he belongs, in the gutter with the rest of the rats. Standing ovation for you!
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reader, alexia846 +, writes (4 January 2011):
alexia846 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys it's been hard because he has been texting me non stop and being nice and mean sometimes I am emotionally weak but I dream of love and everytime I think of my ex I get reminded of all the emotional abuse it's as if my mind can't go back to loving him
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (4 January 2011):
So many times I've heard of people giving their exes a second chance because they've said they've "changed" and so many times it turns out to be utter crap and the same old abuse begins again.
Do not take him back. You should feel no guilt. He had his chance and he blew it by being emotionally abusive. Do you really want to go through that again?
You said you've moved on and seen how some guys can be nice and you're attracted to that - well go get that instead.
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reader, strawberry123 +, writes (4 January 2011):
To be honest, I think the best thing you can do is move on because it seems like you will have a much better and nicer life. He is the reason for how your feeling about yourself now and that is wrong, you obviously don't need anymore negativity in your life.
Yes, I do believe people can change and deserve second chances but only you can decide what to do. What if you give him another chance and after a while he goes back to his old ways? I'm sure thats the last thing you want.
You can't get back with him because you want a nice man, there are plenty more fish in the sea and believe it or not many more decent guys out there, so wait for the right one!
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