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writes: Met this girl(shes 29) on christmas eve and I(Im 32) liked her straight off the bat. Shes the sister of my friends girlfriend(if you can get your head around that). She was acting all nervous around me and not making direct eye contact, I got a vibe that she liked me too. So on new years eve she was there again, there was some other dude there trying it on with her but everytime I looked over at her she just appeared bored when he was talking to her. I stayed away, let that guy blow himself out, which he did. Then eventually she came over my way to talk to me and my friend for the rest of the night. Again she was acting all nevous around me, laughed at all my jokes and overall I just got a good vibe from her. So a few days later I contacted her sister on facebook and asked her what does she think about me making some kind of move with this girl. I was pretty sure Id get a positive response but instead she told me that her sister hasnt had a job in over a year and was at the moment trying to sort her life out and that she wasnt intersted in seeing anybody right now. I dont know how to take this as I did ask this girl not to tell her sister I liked her. So Im not sure if this is what this girl actually thinks or if its her sisters opinion on what the story is. Do you think I should take this as though it came directly from the girl Im interested in? Or do you think I should ignore what her sister said and take my shot anyway? Im usually dead on when it comes to knowing if a girl likes me or not, Im finding it very hard to understand how I couldve been so far off(if I was). Anyway dont be nice, be brutally honest about what you think.Thanks
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reader, mwarren  +, writes (7 January 2012):
 I think you should take a shot and contact this girl. She may yell you the same thing the sister did, but it is better to hear it from her and at least you know where you stand. Going thru a third person is not always the best route as you see it left you more confused.
By going directly to this girl you can know where you stand and even if she feels that way maybe a friendship will start that could lead somewhere down the road.
While talking to her she may see what a nice guy you are and decide to go for it and you can leave it as a friendly option if she declines
Be friendly and polite and be understanding if she says she is not interested .It may take some time for her to come out of her shell if she is in one.
Be truthfull with her,tell her you felt something and were interested. If you dont do it you may never know . You may be right and if you dont act you will be the loser.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2012): Is the sister (i.e. the one you spoke to) older by any chance? Cos I can tell you with complete certainty that, however old we were, I would have a hard time encouraging anyone to make a move on my little sister unless I was 100% certain it was what she wanted, it's just the over-protective older sibling thing. If you really like her, you need to talk to HER, but bear in mind that if her sister's already warned you off she might get a little hostile. Take it slow, and see how it goes :) x
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