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writes:[OP original title]Okay, so this is a bit of a long one. I had a summer romance. She was my first love. Right now I am having an internal struggle. She broke up with me a couple of weeks before she left to her UC. She didn't want that kind of comminment. She only wanted to be committed to her schoolwork and herself. I understood. I mean, the relationship would have been stressed. Although, knowing how she is, I understood she really just wanted to be able to party or date and not feel bad. Again, I would have much rather have her break it off with me then cheat so I guess that isn't so bad. We are only 17 so it would have been insane of her to actually wait for me considering the UC she is going to. She is going to UCSB. For those of you who don't know, UCSB is a party school voted either #1 or #2 (I forget) in hottest guys and sexiest girls. She was always very physical if you know what I mean, which when we were going out was awesome but now it makes the break up that much worse. I know she loved me. I know I loved her. I am not saying I think she didn't love me just because of what she is most likely doing or that she broke it off. It would have been too perfect if she decided to wait for me so I can't really be upset about it. It's just people keep telling me I shouldn't take her back. Ever. They are telling me that if she is going to get at other guys and leave me just so she won't feel guitly about it, then I shouldn't want her back. I know this too but the relationship was so great. We were always happy together and I never felt bored. We argued only once and it didn't even last long not to mention we made up soon after. It was like a love story. She was Juliet in a play and I was Romeo. We often snuck around and always were so happy to see each other. We compared our dilemma to the Notebook. Where Ally had to go away to school but Noah was stuck in his town. She always seemed so sad that we were going to have to end. We both know the outcome before it started but we were head over heels for each other. I don't know what I should do. I really do love this girl. I still want her. Should I still try to get her or is she in the past? Does she not deserve to be taken back because she is acting like a normal teenager? I know what is best for me but I want her instead. Maybe I just need time. But as for now I can't stop thinking about the girl who stole my heart......
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): Thank you so much. I don't know a whole lot about this site so I don't know if you will see this but this really helped me out ^_^ This put me in a really good mood. I mean my ex told me all of this stuff but I mean I didn't really count it because she was with me when she said it. Actually she did tell me again after but I also expected she was putting me down easy. Thank you so much. It will be really hard because alot of me doesn't want to let her go. Hopefully I meet an amazing girl in college. Can't wait for it to start. Really thank you. This is the most flattering thing that anyone has ever said to me. I hope you are right
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (16 August 2010):
 aawwwww....Fantastic post well said! From a girl's advice, sweetie she's going to a party school and well she's going to meet a lot of people get her heart broke, fall in love, and get pretty drunk. Youre so mature to realize it's not fair to tie the girl down when she goes away to school bc most of the time it ends. Thats because there are so many options out there! Plus someone else waiting for you. Youre 17, quite mature, can stand to watch chick flicks great ones at that, sweet, and very thoughtful. She was very lucky to have someone like you but she knows she's going away and it wouldnt be fair to her or you being as you guys are still young..Bottom line, youre everything a girl wants, so be young and put yourself back on that dating market! I guarantee youre not going to be single for very long.
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