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writes:I have been with my very loving boyfriend for a little over 2 years. During that time we have been on-again/off-again several times because I wasn't sure if he was right for me. (We have very good moments together, but his mind seems to be all over the place most of the time, he's a little clingy and his interactions with other people can be a little unnerving.) Unfortunately, my family is beginning to think that the relationship's a joke, although they do love him and enjoy his company. I, on the other hand, have been dealing with an internal battle for several months and I can't seem to switch it off! I am constantly going back and forth with myself about whether I should stay in the relationship or move on. He and I have talked about the way I feel on many occasions and afterwards I usually feel relieved, but the battle starts up again days later. I love my boyfriend very much and he has helped me and my family A LOT, but honestly, I am not in love with him. Sometimes I feel like I am, but I just don't know and I am afraid to lose him! He's my best friend and he loves me, everything about me, wants to marry me and eventually have children. A part of me wants that with him also.I think a part of me is commitmentphobic, yet at the same time I adore lasting relationships. I'm apprehensive of breaking up again because I believe it would be the final time and I don't want to regret it. I'm very confused and I have considered therapy, but I feel I need some advice first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): No, because you aren't in love with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, Gina! I have never been in this situation before and I am afraid to meet someone else. It will take me a long time to get over the break up whenever I decide to do it. He knows how I feel and always has, but still stays, hoping it would change and I wish it would and I thought it would... It makes me very sad to think about it. I'm just so scared to lose him, which seems pathetic in a way. I don't want to make any deicisions I will regret...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, Gina! I have never been in this situation before and I am afraid to meet someone else. It will take me a long time to get over the break up whenever I decide to do it. He knows how I feel and always has, but still stays, hoping it would change and I wish it would and I thought it would... It makes me very sad to think about it. I'm just so scared to lose him, which seems pathetic in a way. I don't want to make any deicisions I will regret...
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