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writes:Ok... so i dated my ex for 2 years and i broke up with him about 10 months ago. Throughout the past 9 months, he's been trying to get back with me, but i didn't think it was something i wanted. I recently saw him out with his 2 friends- one of whom he told me he's "hanging" out with, not dating- so they couldn't have been hanging out for too long. Well now (and its not just bc of this new girl- bc it's not that serious between them anyway) i reeeeally want him back. All i keep thinking about is how great he is and how he always treated me so good. So anyway, we got together about a week ago and i told him how i felt, but i basically said we didn't have to jump back into anything, we can just start off slow and see what happens. He DEFINITELY still has feelings for me, but i know he's confused bc this is all out of the blue for him. So my question is, he knows how i feel and i told him to take whatever time he needs to figure things out. We've texted each other back and forth a few times (he was on vacation so i didn't expect to talk to him about anything regarding us).. so now he's back from vacation and i haven't spoken to him in 2 days... should i wait bc now the balls in his court or should i send him a text here and there to let him know that i'm trying to make an effort or that i care?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2011): TBH I think you're kinda selfish. You dump the guy, let him beg for you back for 10 months...then when he is starting to "hangout" with someone else you start expressing your interest in him. I think he would be a fool to consider you and he should find someone who knows what they want and can appreciate him. Poor guy! Leave him alone!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 June 2011):
 First off can I ask why you broke up with him in the first place? There must have been some reason that made you finish with him, now whatever that reason was are you sure that it is completely ressolved and that it wont creep back up on you when you least expect in. You need to be completely sure you want him in your life because it is really not fair messing him around if you are not. So take your time to think everything through and see how you feel.
As for sending him a text. Well if you have said to him that you are going to give him time to come to term with things ell then give him some space. I am sure he will contact you when he is ready. You are right leave the ball in his court. I am sure he is really confused about why you suddenly changed your mind and am sure he doesn't want to be hurt again so just give him some time to sort out his head.
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