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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi, i'm a female 26 yrs of age. Due to the kind of family i was raised with i really stareted sex very late, i started it when i was 22yrs. The thing is i always belived in marriege and i never wanted to have an affair so i waited so long but unfortunatly failed due to the kind of life i was living. I had a very painful and tough childhood living without my parents, no school, just at home raising my cousins. I didn't want to be a maid so i decided to do something about it but fortunatly my father had a fight with his family and finally they threw me out of their house so i had to go live with my father. Well life was very tough as i had no education no money and nothing but i got a job at my fathers friend's restaurant as i was working very hard and a lady customer spotted me and offered me a better job. She taught me how to talk to the customers and a lot more but yet there was always something missing and that is LOVE, as i started getting all those funny feelings. I decided to finally break my promise and have a boyfriend. Unfortunatly as i rushed in to a relationship with a very wrong man he cheated on me and since he was the first man in my life he was driving me crazy but then i finally moved on as i knew it wasnt going any where. Well i was hurt but it was finally over and after a year of being lonely i was again getting hurt, so once again i met some one who this time seem to be a perfect as he was exactly like the prince i dreamed about he really loved me cared about me and all that a women wish for but this second man in my life too broke my heart, but this time its different after five months of breaking up he is back for forgiveness. The thing is i am very cofused as i dont want to get hurt but i too still love him. but i feel like i have made wrong decision all my life, i have suffered all my life now i am 26 i need to have life with peace but i cant imagine my life without him either. I am used to pain now i can say but at the same time i am very tired of it too. Do you think i should move on or give it a second chance? I feel like i have been very strict with people around me i have been so hard on them, do you think thats the reason everything goes wrong with me? Maybe i think i am too perfect to forgive others? I feel like i am going crazy. I am desperate to find happieness in life something that i never had. Life is so difficult for me because i dont have enough money, no education and no one to love. What should i do?
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reader, oya  +, writes (5 September 2007):
I dont think you should give him a second chance you will end up with a lot of resentment towards him for breaking your heart in the first place.forget about guys for a while do and have fun with your friends and when your not thinking about guys BANG it will happen. usually does. i know it takes time to mend a broken heart but time is a great healer. just fill you day with activities to stop thinking about him. hope this helps. xx take care
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