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*parkie1026
writes:lets see if i can explain this in a way that might make since. ok im a 19 year old female i have been dating my fiance whoms 38 years old for almost 2 years now. i love him and his son very much, but lately it just seem that we dont have the spark any more and i feel like he doesnt like me any more and isnt attracted to me like he use to be. so i went away for a few days to clear my mind. however were i went to stay ended up flaring up old feelings for my first love whom ive know for about 4 years know and then i was hanging out with a few other friends and relized i had feelings fo them to and i have know them for 4 years also. idk if what im feeling is stupid or what. i just dont know. i feel like mabye that i should move out and live my life as a the teenager i am instead of keepin acting that im happy. ive been a house wife for my fience for 2 years know and never went out to hang with friends never went to the movie nothing. im scared to leave my fiance becouse i love his son and dont want to hurt him, and i guess im affraid that if i leave my fiance that my family will disone me again and that every one i know will hate me. IDK please if any one has some sort of advice at all please tell me. thank you.
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reader, cnith +, writes (1 May 2010):
 You're 19. You have your whole life ahead of you. WHY are you wasting it with a fudd? He doesn't go out and you're a housewife?! no.... At your age you should be partying (responsibly please!) and having the time of your life. You only get one shot. Don't waste it on some old dude who's tired and boring. (no offense to the old folks out there. I'm 38 but I act like a teenager, I don't sit at home much.)I wasted my youth on a guy who sucked the life out of me. I'm 38 and my mind is alive and well but my body disagrees. Don't let your fiance suck up your life. Move on. It's OK to want to live. It's nothing anyone should hate you for...and the son? Well, explain that you'll always be his friend and keep in touch with him, if you can.But yeah, go live your life. It's yours. Not his.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2010): Why would your family disown you? Is the an arranged situation? I'm surprised that at the age of 16 you were hooking up with a man who is so much older then you. I believe that you are too young to be tied down to this man. Enjoy your youth and don't piss it away pleasing everyone but yourself or you will surely look back with nothing but regret.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (1 May 2010):
 If he really loves you in a mature way then he has to set you free to go and live your own life whilst hopefully staying as a good and close friend for him and his son. I don't understand why you feel that people will hate you for this.
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