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writes:Should I let this row become a break-up? We are both in our 40s, have gone through our separate divorces since knowing each other 4 years ago and we are looking to move together. The problem is that we live 70 miles apart and because of our respective children, we have not being able to move together. We see each other at weekends and talk everyday on the phone. We had a row and I strongly feel she is wrong. She is not taking my calls or responding to my messages. I am 90% sure she is expecting me to come down to her and apologise, then the relationship can go on. But I feel the issues that I have will not be resolved and if I try to bring them up, it will end up in a row again. Should I let this row become a break-up or should I visit her with flowers attempting to resolve the problems even if we will eventually break-up? I am thinking the latter is a matured way. To summarise the issues: She is only rational when she is not in the centre of the subject. For example she once stated the reason why she wants me to move 70miles to her is because she doesn’t want to move her son far away from his dad. But that is what will happen to my 3 boys who are younger. Generally, it is one rule for her, different one for me. We love each other very much, but I do not want to move too far from my children and she doesn’t want to seriously disrupt her older children’s live. We have agreed to move half way, but this could take another 4 years which I am not keen on.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (26 June 2007):
 If you really believe she is wrong. Apologise for your part of the argument and explain why you think she was wrong to her. She may not see that she was in the wrong.
A long distance relstionship is hard. I'm pregnant by my partner with no other kids so I don't fully feel I can understand your situation but I know the stresses of who moves and stuff.
If you really want this woman get her flowers, and go see her and as I said apologise for your part of the argument. Hopefully she will apologise for hers then have a chat about how you feel. How you think she expects you to move from your sons etc.
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