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*ugustflower81
writes:I am feeling very lonely and depressed in a foreign country where I am in unhappy marriage to foreign national. Last year my childhood sweetheart contacted me wanting to know how things are with me. I have been in touch with him and I think I am falling deeply in love with him again. I want to leave my husband for him, although he wants to be with me but his parents are against our relationship because he's never been married yet. Should I let him decide or try to persuade him to go against his parent's decision?
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reader, Augustflower81 +, writes (13 June 2007):
Augustflower81 is verified as being by the original poster of the question My childhood boyfriend is back emailing me after having ignored my emails for 4 weeks. His emails sound as if nothing happened. How do I treat his emails, should I reply, or ignore. Just as I was getting over him, he is back wanting to talk, emailing me yesteday and today. I am very wary of him because he may either hurt me or come back to me.
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reader, Augustflower81 +, writes (5 June 2007):
Augustflower81 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice. I think I must concentrate on my life to build my self esteem and confidence. I am getting much better and doing lots of exciting things. As for my childhood boyfriend, I guess, he choose his parents wishes. It is now more than 2 weeks since I have heard from you. Although I am emailed him a few times but I didn't get reply. So I guess, this is kind of ending in a way. He didn't say he doesn't want me or love me in his previous emails so I assume that he still loves me but cannot be with me.
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reader, Augustflower81 +, writes (21 February 2007):
Augustflower81 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello nicola79Thank you for your advice. I must first get my marriage sorted then better things will follow. I hope. Fingers cross.:)
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reader, nicola79 +, writes (20 February 2007):
 Ohhh dear, I really do feel for you. But you cant live a lie,if your unhappy you need to get out of your marriage. I think you need to have a bit of you time now,and stop thinking about needing to be with this old flame. You need to concentrate on YOU,if this other man loves you he will understand that you need to be single for a while.
Also while you are having this time, he can work on his parents cant he? I do think things will work out for you but please take your time my love.
Keep me posted,my fingers are crossed. xxxxxxxx
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reader, Psyche  +, writes (20 February 2007):
I think the first thing is that you get out of your marriage. If you are unhappy with this guy, move on.
Secondly, you don't need a knight in shinning armor to give you an excuse to divorce. You wont know if your old boyfriend is a good match until you date again. Casually. Don't jump from this bad marriage into a new relationship right away. Give yourself a chance to breathe.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): Best thing is to let him decide, because if the relationship goes pear shapes, he'll easily point the finger at you, and tell you that he was influenced by your decision
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