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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Im having an issue with this man ive been seeing.We first started talking in December.He is very sweet,wonderful personality,a getleman...all great things.But,we are not a couple at this time.And we got on the topic,and my general understanding is that he just likes being single.But i dont know the reasons....or what that means for us.The topic kind of got dropped,and im guessing theres a reason somewhere.He always talks to me,whether on the phone,text,online...always makes contact and always inquires about when im free next.We have a good connection,and get along well.He also treats me as someone would treat a girlfriend.He doesnt treat me as if its just all about sex.But this is all leaving me very confused.I even cancelled our plans for Valentines day,because I wasnt sure why he wanted to go since we are not an item.He said he was disapointed because he was looking forward to it...but as sweet as he is,I will soon be stuck in a situation where my feelings overcome good judgement.So in a way,I am trying to keep a safe distance so as not to lose my head over this guy.I dont want to keep my distance because I enjoy our time together very much,but i dont want to be hurt if hes not aiming for the same goal as I am.What should I do here? Do some guys just like to take it slow before labeling something as a committed relationship? Or do you think he has some sort of commitment issue? I want to know,but I also dont want to come off sounding pushy.I just feel like I cant be myself now....like I have to keep some of my feelings to myself so I dont sound like im trying to take it to the "relationship" level.So i try to be casual,but its so hard.I want to be open with how I feel and what I think,and I feel as though I cant do that.Should I just live for the moment and let this go where it goes....or guard my heart from possibly getting hurt? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2009): Sounds like the guy I have... "He's not near Brisbane is he lol?"
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