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*enae smith
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 4months now and it feels lke all we are doing is fucking, my man aint one of them boys that use girls for sex but its like his not showing me the affection i desire no more, and recently told me his worried the realationship may not be the kind im looking for, because he thinks i want a long and serious realaionship- which i do but he said he cant offer me that which i understand because we only young but now i feel im wasting my timw with this guy, his lovely and all i cant be bothered to carry a realationship thats not going to benefit me in the long hall. wat should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, 19agegap  +, writes (21 April 2008):
ask him once more again that it's understandable u're young and not looking for anything serious...but would he be serious in say a few years? give u a timeframe is better than leaving u guessing
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (21 April 2008):
Why are you asking us for permission?
You know it's not going anywhere, you know you aren't happy with where it is, he's pretty much told you he's only in it for the short term.
Sit him down and tell him it's not working. I doubt he'll be surprised.
He is right that you are young, so you can have lots of fun being a single gal about town. Be a hard core career woman for a while, it's fun!
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2008): Maybe your unsure of what you want. Women seem to have a tendency to think they aren't getting something. Women have a tendency to always want and expect it to be provided.
Men have a tendency to give but not what women want over time.
There is a disconnect between the sexes. Why? Because up until this age of teens, we kept to our own sex. The learning and growing has been done with our own sex. We are oblivious to what the other thinks, wants and needs. So it is up to you to educate your man, just as it is his job to educate you on what he needs. This is a tuff job for either of you. Most fail. Those that succeed last a long time, because they have built trust. They learn who each other are, what makes them tic, and how to provide for each other. We are not raised to know this. Religion is one key that keeps us seperated from learning the needs of each other, schools are only design to teach math, language, history and science. But relationships? Not at all taught until you get to college, and even then, it is done in an amateurish way.
What you both sense, though not completely understood, is a road-block, you both sense it, but don't know what to do or what it means. It is time to journey deeper.
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