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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have been living with my boyfriend and his best friend for about a year and recently the best friend has become increasingly selfish and obnoxius. For example, taking my work clothes out of the dryer without telling me and putting in his own and eating food and not replacing it. This behaviour really irritates me, but I'm further upset by my boyfriend who accused me of being unappreciative because his best friend bought milk with his last $4 (he doesn't drink milk, but i do) and I only said thankyou once instead of being blown away by his "kindness", even though it was a sunday night and he's paid first thing Monday morning...Should I have been more appreciative or is it fair to expect a little more fairness within the household?
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (8 April 2008):
 Hi,
good grief, there is an easy way to end this flatsharing nightmare. Tell your boyfriend if he wants to have a girlfriend then its time to lose his mate. Or for you two to find a place together.
If he refuses, you will then know how important you really are in his affections, tell him that you hope he is happy making family with his best mate and leave.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): These "arrangements" rarely work out, anon. There is just too much unspoken tension. Boyfriend's mate is envious because of you. He would like to have a girl of his own. And he feels he cannot be as close to his old friend as they once were. You need to have a sit-down talk. Someone needs to move out. These things can be delicate. But, it is obviuosly not working the way it is.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 It is never easy when three is a crowd.
There should be plenty of give and take and compromise.
It is always preferred to stay as a couple and no third person involved.
The third person will cause tensions and havoc .
Sorry, you either need to work out the limits and boundaries
with him or you just right what is wrong in your eyes.
Your b/f is caught in the middle.
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