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writes:Basically i just need advise on whether to go ahead with my past plans on studying abroad or whether to leave them behind at the risk of regretting them for my boyfriend. It would be for a period of 4months.I’ve been with my boyfriend for 8 months and I the relationship is great. I’m living at university about an hour from home (i had applied before we got together) and am always going home to see him. He has come to visit me at uni a few times but seems to prefer me coming home as he’s not keen on the uni environment. Anyways, I chose my uni because it gave me great study abroad opportunities allowing me to go to distant destinations. When I mentioned it to him last year (a few months ago) when texting he basically hated the idea and was saying how that if I went and studied abroad we wouldn’t stay together and so i haven’t mentioned it since. I don’t like the idea of us not being together and him hating me but at the same time I don’t want to not take the opportunity and regret it. I know deep down that it might seem a bit unreasonable to expect him to wait around for 4 months while i’m abroad but don’t you think there might be a chance that he has changed his mind? Also, he’s always going on about how he wants to be with me forever and that he’ll always love me and if he means it wouldn’t he wait? Thanks for taking the time to read this. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have recently found out also that my boyfriends mother has cancer for the second time.... this changes the situation doesn't it?!?
also when i told him i had recieved an offer of acceptance from one of the universities he's said he 'doesnt know what to say to me' and hasnt really spoken to me since. Im at uni at the minute and wont be home for over a week, after which i need to accept or decline the study abroad offer...
Im so confused at what to do...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): Four months separation is nothing if you are expecting the relationship to run for years. Equally, if he doesn't view this as a many-year relationship then he can't expect a say in your long-run life plans.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): I would follow your dream. If you give it up for him and even if things work out, it will always be something between you, and if things don't work out and you gave it up for him how would you feel then?
Him saying that if you went you wouldn't stay together is not a good sign, he should be encouraging you and supporting you with the things you want from life. After all 4 months is not a long time in the scale of things
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