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writes:Hey guys!!! I need some advice!!!!Ok I really like this Virgo guy…. I’m not really sure why exactly because he doesn’t really put himself out there much lol. We met about 5yrs ago. I worked at a mall and he tried to get my number. I was very attracted to him but the timing was all off…. Me and my ex had broken up a lil over a month before and I just didn’t feel like meeting anyone new or possibly getting hurt again. I regreted not talking to him and I would see him around alot because we had a few mutual friends but I could never bring myself to say anything. I hoped he would try again like most guys but he never did. I figured if it wasn’t ment to be!In oct 09 I ran into him while picking up a order of food I placed at the food court of a mall I was shopping at. I’m a firm believer in fate!!! I placed my order looked around and went to the bathroom and when I returned to get my food he was picking his up that he called in. We exchanged hellos and went our separate ways. I was determined to say something to this man so I sent him a friend request on facebook and we have been disfunctionaly seeing each other ever since until now wich I’ll get to in a bit.Since I last saw him 4 yrs ago he’d become a father, and commited vehicular manslaughter due to a drunk driving incident that happened a yr ago. Him and his bm weren’t together anymore due to the accident and some other issues he wouldn’t discuss. So our timing once again was off because now the mans dealing with bm drama and facing time in jail wich he’s serving now…. he started serving his scentence of 5 yrs yesterday. He put that all out on the table when we started talking and to his surprise and mine too by the way I still wanted to finally get to know him!Months have gone by. We text a lot… We never have that much to say on the phone like we do through texting or in person. We never actually go out …. He works a lot and is always tired. He’s offered but it feels wrong to accept because I know he really isn’t up to it. Most of our time is spent at his apt… We talk, goof around, and of course have sex! I’m not as shy a I used to be and I refuse to miss out on oppurtunities anymore so I tell him how I really like him blah blah blah…. He tells me he “he really f***s with me” but he’s not gonna sell me any dream because he has a lot going on, bm drama and he wouldn’t know the verdict of his trial so he isn’t thinking about a relationship right now. I could respect and understand that. Things went the same for a while then he became more distant. The closer he got to his court date the already thick brick wall became thicker! It didn’t make sense to me… If I was a guy and I was possibly gonna do time I would see my female friend more not less! He would say he liked me but he would always be out with his friends or have his kid.Whats crazy is I really like this guy. When I’m around him I feel so comfortable and secure. We just have fun together. He’s really learned from his mistakes and he is a good person. It’s a shame someone was killed in that accident and it’s a shame he could be gone for 5yrs at most. I just feel crazy because I don’t think I should like him as much as I do! Like I’m sitting here typing all this on this blog and he’s in a cell most likely not even thinking about me! I saw him the weekend before he got locked up. I had sent him some heart felt emails prior to his trial and he didn’t reply back. I didn’t even get a I’ll miss you text! Not even a thank you for being a friend lol…. Nothing! I came to 2 conclusions that he grew more distant from me during his last month either because he liked me a lot and didn’t want to becuase of his circumstances or he would rather spend time with those he really cares about and I wasn’t worth his time…. I dunno wich one! He’s so hard to read… I can be to but lately Ive been putting myself out there more. I def always gave him his space.I wish I would have talked to him 5 yrs ago! I wonder how things would have been!? He would often joke and say we would have been married with kids and have a family dog by now. I’m soooo mad at myself. I think we get along so well… And with all that was going on in his life we still manged to have a good time together … Under normal circumstances I imagine it would be perfect! I believe good things are worth waiting for and I can honestly say if he were to tell me he felt the same way about me that I would wait for him! He most likely won’t have to serve that whole scentence. I hope I hear from him while he’s gone…. The way he’s acting I probably won’t! What should I do? Am I crazy for liking this guy do much? HELP!!!!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 April 2010):
 He felt under those circumstances, he cannot provide you with a bright future. He does not want to be a hindrance to your happiness. This could explain his cold behaviour towards you .
If with good behaviour he will have 1/3 remission and will be released after 3.3 years
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