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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Well hello there all, I'm just here looking for some advice on my relationship (if you can call it that). Where to start, My partner works away about six months out of the year, he comes home for a long weekend at the end of every month. While he is away he usually phones me a couple of times a day.... except at the weekends, from a Thursday to a Monday I rarely hear from him! If I do it's on his way back from the pub, I wouldn't mind but he hates it when I go out, he hates it when I have my friends over and has me sat in a golden cage on my own 24/7 cos that's the way he likes it. I suggested that perhaps I could get a job, he didn't like that idea, I find myself lonely and bored and becoming more and more depressed. He used to make up for it when he came home, he would spend all his time with me, last time he brought his friend with him to stay in our flat. We were supposed to go to the cinema and we got the whole way to town and I ended up having to sit in the bar with him and his friend all day and night. I really don't think he cares at all but I don't know what to do, should I give it one last try or cut my losses and move on?
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reader, flower girl +, writes (14 August 2007):
 Oh how controlling he sounds, so it's ok for him to have a job and spend all weekend out and about enjoying himself, yet you are not aloud to do the same.
Do you really want to spend you life like this?
If i were in your position i would be out of there quick, and find someone that could have a bit of respect for me.
It really does depend on how much you love him, if you think he will change which is probably unlikely if he does it all the time and has started bringing mates home aswell, and if you are prepared to carry on like this.
Damn sure i would not have to think too hard about it.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): His thoughtfulness and consideration toward you absolutely staggers me -- NOT!!!Who is HE to dictate whether you get a job, have friends over, get involved in activities of your choosing, for your own enjoyment/enrichment?He certainly pleases himself as to how he spends his leisure time, now doesn't he?I'd vote for cutting my losses, if I were in your shoes.
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