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writes:I am recently single (less than six months after a two and a half year relationship), and I have been enjoying myself somewhat. I haven't been dating anyone, but I've had some casual hookups and it's been going well. Not that I am against being in a relationship again, I'm just not actively looking for one.A few months ago one of my best guy friends told me he wanted to date me. I told him no, that I didn't want to date a friend. I don't know if it's more than that... I find myself not really attracted to him. He's not unattractive though, I don't understand what it is.Anyways, I've done some dumb things, gotten drunk and made out with him twice, although both times I told him nothing was going to come of it, that he shouldn't want to be with me. And I do flirt a lot with him, but I think I just do it because I know it's safe, that he's not going to freak out about it. I miss the satisfaction of having a relationship. I miss cuddling with someone, touching them, and not being afraid of them rejecting you.So I guess my problem is: should I actually give in and maybe date this guy? Like I said, I'm not really attracted to him... but he's sweet. He's a good guy. I just don't want to agree and then end up breaking his heart, or vice versa. I don't know if I could bring myself to have a sexual relationship with him, him being my friend and all it feels weird. Argh, I guess that kinda answers my question... it just feels weird. But maybe someone out there has a different opinion, or a story to tell?Thanks. :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): Don't mess with him.
But just as a prediction, I think you might find you start wanting him if he genuinely moves on with his life and starts dating someone else. Right now he's money in the bank for you and a challenge tends to be sexier.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): You answered your own question with your title. 'not very attracted to him'. OBviously YOU SHOULDN'T . Don't play with people's hearts, especially not your friends.
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (15 February 2009):
 If you looked on this site last night there must have been five or six guys all saying they fancy a female friend but she doesn't like them. To be fair it's a guy thing and he'll just have to accept the fact. If he's a true friend he'll understand.I agree with you, if you don't like him like that it will end in his heart ache.But you really have to stop leading him on! Flirting and making out with a guy kind of suggest "I like you!"
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