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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together a couple years shy of a decade. We began dating in high school but also went through several splits most only for a couple weeks to a couple months and one that was a few months. My boyfriend finally grew up and realized his mistakes and began treating me like a princess. I can really tell the change in him and he hasn't wavered in this for a year now. He is pushing for marriage and I was very much for it but now I am feeling like maybe this isn't right for me. I can't stop thinking about the person I dated briefly during one of our break ups who happened to be a long time friend. We are still friends and I know he still has feelings and it makes me worried I am making the wrong choice. My boyfriend and I are complete opposites but he understands me completely and loves me for everything I am. He is the kindest smartest most honest person and would do anything for me. I know he will make a great hubby and pop to our future little ones.My friend and I are very similar but he has not proven to be faithful in other relationships. I am so confused and don't know what to do. I often feel great surges of love for my mate but then I think about my friend at other times. I don't know if we have just been together so long that I'm just comfortable or maybe just scared because I know marriage is approaching or if I should actually leave? Please help!
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (13 August 2014):
 Trust your gut on this. If you are fraid of the answer, don't ask the question I always say. It sounds like your delema is based on an inner fear that old dogs cannot learn new tricks. If you 'think' he will run aound on you then he probably will. Trea yourself to a real man that you trust. Don't arry someone you hope will love you back.
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reader, uzer  +, writes (13 August 2014):
If you're second guessing getting married because of someone you dated in the past then clearly you are not ready for marriage and you are not ready to fully commit to your boyfriend and put your past fling behind you.
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