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writes:Hi, how is everyone doing?There's this girl that I met a couple months ago and I got to know her a bit. She told me she liked me really early on, but I kind of just brushed it off and just avoided giving her an answer at the time. We were still able to get along, but I don't think she realized that I didn't like her more than just a friend. She got me a couple little gifts here and there and we hung out once.We haven't seen each other for a couple months, but we talk every so often online. She says she wants to hang out some time, and she got me a little present from her vacation. I'm pretty sure she still likes me, but I don't feel anything towards her. I feel like I need to tell her I only want to be friends, but I find myself feeling really guilty after she gave me those little gifts. It doesn't seem right for me to get her a gift just so we can call it even, and if I do get her a gift, would that just give her a wrong signal?I just want to tell her that I only want to be friends to make it clear and finally give her an answer, but I'm not sure how to do so without being mean, or having her hate me. Should I ask her to hang out and tell her then? Should I get her a present so I don't feel like I was just taking?Thanks for any advice Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): By giving her a gift you are sending out the wrong signals to her - even if you mean well by it!
If she won't listen to what you have to say, write a letter instead. Explain to her that you value her friendship and that you are not ready for a relationship at the moment, with her or anyone else.
You have to be firm in doing this other wise she will keep coming after you. Maybe avoid seeing her for a feww weeks again, speak on the fone, txt or whatever but just casual friendly chat. And no don't get her a gift. There is no hard and fast rule saying that you have to buy her a gift in return for the ones she gave you.
Best of luck with it all x
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