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*ich611
writes:Hello everyone:I am in a tough position and need some helpful advice. My boyfriend of 2.5 years recently broke about 7 weeks ago. He broke up with me because we were fighting a lot and neither of us were very happy at the time. But we both still loved each other. So we've been in contact somewhat since then and he asked if he could see me a few days ago. He came over and we were hanging out, drinking wine, playing Wii and having a great time. Then he started getting texts over and over, and for some reason I asked him if he's slept with anyone. He said yes, and I was incredibly hurt so I told him he should leave. Then he comes over to me and launches into a huge apology, about how it was the biggest mistake, he was trying to move on and forget me and he was listening to his friends that were encouraging him to move on. But after sleeping with that girl he realized that he's still in love with me. And now he knows he wants me back, he wants a future with me, I'm the love of his life (he could just be saying that). But now that the decision is mine to make, I just don't know if I can forget him sleeping with someone just 6 weeks after our breakup. I'm so disgusted by it, and it seems it's all I think about.So, please help me. Should I give him another chance? Or should i just continue with moving on? Because I'm not sure if I can get over him having sex with someone so soon, in order for us to move forward together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): I say continue with this break-up for now ...all you fighting and issues have not been resolved. Why dont' you go out there and date a little and see what you want? YOu don't seem to sure about what you want right now. You don't need to make this decision right NOW just because he's figured things out and wants you back. Give yourself time and put yourself first for now.
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reader, Mich611 +, writes (23 August 2010):
Mich611 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi there anonymous:
Thanks so much for your advice. I know you're right, we were not together so it's not something I can truly hold against him (but that does not take away from the pain of it). You're also right about if I can't let this go it will just cause fighting and resentment. I have a tough decision to make...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): Well it is hard to hold it against him if ya'll were not together . Yeah it hurts but the fact you two were no longer a couple .
If you can not get over this then move on. If you try to get back together you , this will just cause resentment and fighting .
If you really love him forgive him and move on together. Sometimes men have to see what they lost to understand how badly they want it .
I have heard plenty of male friends after a break up go out and sleep with another girl and suddenly realize they want the ex and want to marry the ex. Weird I know but true. Guy logic always a mystery ...lol
once again if you can not get over this then move on .
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