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writes: About 2 year ago, a friend I've been mates with for about 3 years said he was in love with me. He has always been a player and I didn't want that. I didn't feel the same and told him it was strictly friendship. We were always close. We hug all the time and used to hang around with each other constantly.Well about a year ago, I began to feel as though I loved him. I told him and he said he liked me, but not as much as he used to. We never actually went out, but we kissed a few times and I genuinely fell in love with him.Now, a year on, he's still a player and apparently 'loves' someone else. But I still feel as strongly for him as I did a year ago. He still flirts with me but doesn't feel the same anymore.I don't know what to do. Should I fight for him, or should I get over him? If the latter, what can help me to do this?Please help. Thanks in advance.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (22 November 2007):
It seems you are attracted to dangerous things. My advice, stop hanging out with him and stop flirting with him over the phone and don't try kissing anymore. You are seriously pushing yourself into a ditch which i'm not sure you can climb out easily. However,talk to him and tell him seriously how you feel and what you want and listen to his response. You may be the person to change him but you may destroy your friendship and end up getting hurt.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (22 November 2007):
 It sounds to me that the only reason you really love him is that you can not have him now. If the two of you were really suppose to end up together, you would have dated him the first time he asked you out. Sorry, but you missed it.
If he is smart, he will see right through this and not end up with you.
I think it is sad that you want to fight for him now, and break up his chances at being with someone that he loves.
Are you sure he isn't the only one "playing"?
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, miminoisette  +, writes (22 November 2007):
 It looks as if you'll have to get over him. Don't bother with someone who doesn't respect you enough to fall in real love with you, unless you're looking for what he seems to be giving.
Maybe he'll grow up at some point. Until then? Best to keep looking. You deserve so much more.
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