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writes:(Sorry this is REALLY long!)Last November I was in a play at my previous college (it was a 2 year and I graduated and moved on), during the play my friend (Carrie) and I met a guy named Brian. Well him and my friend got close and started dating; Brian decided to hook me up with his bestfriend. So he gave his friend my yahoo sn and we started talking. About two weeks later we went on a double date to the movies. Chris was extremely touchy feely, something im not use to…(also im very ticklish)….well I finally got him to stop feeling up my thighs so he held my hand the whole time. I like that…When we were about to part he wanted a kiss and I defiantly put a stop to that, 1 it was our first date and 2 we weren’t official.So later on that night at like 2am I was on yahoo and he asked me out…I wasn’t sure at first but he kept saying things like “ill treat you so much better than that jerk you were with.” Etc… And he kept asking so I finally said yes…(this was Dec. 1st)Well about a week passed with him texting me like nonstop and I went over to his house one night...his dad said it was too late for me to travel 30min back in the country to school so he said I should stay over….bad Idea this is where it fell apart.I’ve never kissed before so he taught me to kiss and somehow that turned to dry humping…I have no idea how either. I regret that move because it opened so much more. He just gave out this vibe or something that I got caught up in and did things my morals screamed not to…Well over the weeks we talked like nonstop until the 18th and something happened….I caught him chatting with a girl on msn she said “aww but I thought you said you wanted to view my webcam?” and he goes “lol” and Xed out of it really fast.Brian was there so I talked to him about it and I guess he mentioned something to Chris….Chris stopped talking so much to me and then we had an argument when I faced him about it a few days later and he said I was “ripping his heart out.” Finally we got over that but he still seemed cold and not as talky as before…and I mean there was a MAJOR fall in communication.Well I felt uncomfortable staying at his house but it was the only way we could be together over break because he lives about 2hours from me. I like his family but it just felt weird so when we wanted to spend time together wed stay over at my brothers’ house.Another bad idea…He thought that meant “alls fair play.” I told him many times that I wanted to stay a virgin.” Well he talked me into going as far as oral… which I seriously regret. (I told him I wouldn’t have sex with someone I didn’t love…it was too soon for love…well a few days later he told me he loved me).But let me tell you something that happened before that. We were in the back seat of my brothers car; my brother, his friend, Brian, and Carrie were in there (it’s a van).Well Chris started getting all I guess to put it “vibey “again and wanted to do things…He tried fingering me in the car! I had to put a stop to that…that was seriously against my morals…other people were around!Well the days went on and it was almost the end of the month. (this is a few days after I caught him on msn) I was supposed to meet him at his house and then we would head to my brothers. I was running about an hour late (bad weather). He seemed mad at me when he called and when I arrived he didn’t greet me at the door or say much.He seamed distant all weekend. We went to the mall and he didn’t want to hold hands as much as normal and he was getting mad at me when I tried.Later that evening we were watching tv and cuddling well he decided to have fun and tickle me. I asked him to “please don’t” But he did anyways. I told him before that I have major Asthma and if I’m tickled a lot I can go into an attack. Well he decided to sit on my chest and continue tickling me...I asked over and over again “Please get off, I cant breath!” I was turning red and all he did was laugh and kept tickling me! Finally I got him off but I had to use my inhaler which made him laugh more!Well later that night we went to bed and he was in the mood for some fun…I was normally okay with the dry humping and hand job/fingering….But over the weeks he kept begging and begging for a blow job and having his friend make fun of me for not doing it…finally that night I gave in.I did it..and he returned the favor…well afterwards he crawled back on me (still with his boxers on) so I figured more dry humping…but I felt his fingers down there so I figured he was about to finger me but nothing happened…so I ran my hand down and made sure he had his boxers on…he kept doing something I wasn’t sure about…So I felt again (in the dark, couldn’t see). Well I figured out what he was doing…he had his penis through the hole in his boxers and was trying to enter me!I pushed him off because I told him many of times we were not going to do that and then there was the fact that he had no condom on! I said that and he went and put one on and tried to get on me again…I pushed him off saying “no, I told you…anyhow this is way too soon.” He got mad and started pouting…he said he was fine and not mad. Right….Well we went to sleep and he woke me up with a kiss in the morning. (later on after breakup he said ‘I kiss all my friends that are girls’)Later we were watching a movie and cuddling and he kept moving (I didn’t think anything of it) He later after we broke up pointed it out as “I was trying to get away.” We were about to go out for some ice cream…he went to the room to get ready and I followed…He just laid on the bed and I asked him what he was thinking and he said “I want to go home.” We had planned a few more days together so this upset me. I started crying because that’s what I do when Im confused.He wouldn’t talk to me at all on the way home and then when he got out of the car he called and broke up with me.It was a 28 day relationship that went way too far too fast…He had gotten out of a 1yr off and on relationship were he always got sex and im still a virgin..did not work.I went through a depressed period afterwards. (He had treated me worse than the guy I was with previously…who was a cheater)But he said he just wanted to be friend then got mad at me and blocked me on facebook and yahoo.Well that was 8 months ago. Last week I signed onto yahoo and I had a friend request…It was from Chris!Well I added him because I wanted to know what he wanted. Well he wasn’t online so I couldn’t ask. Well on Monday I got a text from him saying “Hey”Him: HeyMe: Hi….Him: Sorry I got busy and couldn’t reply.Me: That’s fineHim: I’ve been thinking about you here lately and I was wondering if you still hated me.Me: Really? Yes, I am still mad at you.Him: Why are you mad at me?Me: Never mind its in the past.(I did not want to cause a fight)Well that was the end of the texts…the next day (Tue of this week) I signed on yahoo and before I could even finish having yahoo load he was talking to me.Chris: heyKara: heyChris: whats up?Kara: nm just on break between classesChris: cool sounds like fun. where are you going to classes now? Kara: . we switched places...I hear your at MACC now...im at CMU now (he went to CMU last yr and wanted me to join him so I applied and got my acceptance letter the day after we broke up – he filed my head with things of the future saying wed be together for months and I gullibly believed)Chris: lol niceChris: well i was at macc but i dropped my classes. so im not going anywhere nowChris: i was going to go into the air force but im notChris: so idk what im doing atmKara: =/Kara: why did you decide not to go into the air force?Chris: long storyKara: figured you would of joined the LETC program at MACC or somethingChris: yeaChris: idk what im going to do right nowChris: atm im just working at walmart and living with my grandparentsChris: i dont even know if im going to finish my degree atmKara: why are you living at your grandparetns? Chris: bc my parents pretty much kicked me outKara: what!? why? =/Chris: just didChris: i like it better over here anywaysChris: closer to workChris: and i love living with my grandparentsChris: but hey im going to jump off here. Chris: ttyl some time?Kara: alright...byesChris: byeWell from reading that…I want to know…after all we went through, why is he contacting me again after 8 months??In fact…should I even talk to him?
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reader, Kalyov +, writes (11 September 2009):
Kalyov is verified as being by the original poster of the question Since everything went wrong in his life and theres no one left hes trying to get back with me?So your saying that I'm sort of like a last resort type thing? Figures .
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reader, readytomoveon7 +, writes (10 September 2009):
I had a situation sort of like that. It's obvious that he knows he messed up. He doesn't have anyone else to talk to. Everything isn't going right in his life. He's no longer in school, he got kicked out of his parents house and he's working at Walmart...don't get sucked back in. He's probably trying to see if he still has any chance with you. Karma is something else. For how he treated you, his life has fell apart. I'd say, there's nothing wrong with you talking to him, just don't get involved on another level. Forgiveness is very important...everyone makes mistakes so forgive him and move on. The more he thinks you're still mad at him, the more his head gets big because he realizes that he's still on your mind. Did that make any sense??
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