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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid. I've been married now for nine months. I'm a parent of one 3 year that is not my husbands. My husband is currently working overseas. So the only way that we communicate is through e-mails. For the last few months things have been upside down. I have caught him in so many lies i lost count. He has even lied on me and on his own family. I've always tired to be honest with him about everything. Due to the fact of him lying to me I've lost my trust and respect for him. Slowly loosing my love. One of the main reasons is. He will be returning home for two weeks. And he wants to see his family first. I said i didn't have problem with that. I wanted to spend some intimate time with him. I felt as though he wasn't putting our relationship first like he should. The communication was already a problem. Since i've heard and been told lies. The communication went from baby i love you. To hanging up on each other. Or not being able to talk without yelling at each other. In result i have acted on my emoitons by telling i didn't love him anymore. When deep inside i still do. I know that wasn't right of me to say. And it's something i can't take back. Lately i've been thinking of getting a divorce. I've even called a few lawyers. What should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2009): My husband also works overseas and if he was to so openly have an affair and rub it in my face, there is no question he is gone. he should be ashamed and so should you for allowing it, trust yourself and do something about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2009): First of all...he should be seeing his wife first and then his family! You should come first! But then you say, you are considering a divorce...it sounds to me that you are both considering it! Long distance relationships are very very difficult! I know, I am in one! I think his two weeks at home, will reveal a lot to you. Wait till you see him again, and then decide what you want for your future. Since you have already caught him in lies, see what he has to say when you are face to face. Tell him that you said you don't love him, out of frustration and anger. Open those lines of communication and see what developes. I bet by the end of his time home you will have your answer!
Good Luck!
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