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writes:Ok so here I go...this is hard to explain but ill try my best. Feel free to ask me any questions if you arent sure of something or if i left somethign out. Im confused about my relationship with my bf who I have been with for 1 month. We knew each other for 9 months before though. I am 18 and he just turned 19. I am the first girl he has actualy been in a relationship with, he has only dated other girls before. I dont mind that he hasnt had a proper gf before, but I feel that maybe he isnt ready for one yet, or maybe hes still to scared to let himself become close to me like he was with other girls he dated.I feel that hes a bit immature to. I dont mean hes childish, I jsut feel that on a mental/emotional level hes at a lower stage I guess you could say. And I think his way of seeing things in life nad his needs/wants and desires all reflect the fact that he may be less mature then me at the moment. I guess the main problem is I feel that although he says he is so hapy to be in a relationship with me, I feel he isnt being completely hoenst with me, and maybe not with himself either. I feel that part of him still wants to be on the dating scene, and be more casual. And I guess this may tie back to the fact that he seems to have different wants/neeeds and desires from this relationship, compared to me. I really really really do like him and I care for him sooo much, but it just feels like it isnt workng. Has anyone else ever had a similar problem? How do you deal with it? Should we deal with it or just end the relationship now?
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (31 October 2007):
 Hello.
You need to leave this guy now, he really really does not want you as his girl friend, you have no basis for a relationship, you have said as much yourself,if he still wants to be on the dating scene were does that leave you, why do you think he has had as many girl friends, he does not want to stay in one relationship, do not take this the wrong way but i am afraid you are the one that is being immature in this case , if you were a mature person you would have noticed that he is not interested in you, and you would have moved on,he is not ready for any type of full time relationship, he is taking you for a ride, its time you stop now.
Because the next letter you will write in will be my boy friend has broken my heart he gone off with another woman
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