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*ourtney24
writes:ok so i have already posted a question before about my situation but i only recieved one response.. now things have gotten a little more complicated, and i really really need some advice.. ok so i have been seeing and sleeping with this guy for about 3 months now and its safe to say i have fallen for him. i finally got to meet his son this past weekend, we had a blast together, everything felt so natural, anyway, it a possibility that i may be pregnant, and now all the sudden he doesnt seem to be interested in sex anymore.. and he will not commit to me so i have quit questioning what we are and im trying to go with the flow, but my heart is on the line and im not sure what to do.. the whole time we have been having sex its like he has been trying to get me pregnant he has even made comments like about baby names right after sex.. and now that i might be pregnant he has distanced himself from me physically.. and on top of everything, he is going thru a divorce and he is still trying to get over his ex wife they were married for 13 years.. idk what to do i am lost.. should i just continue going with the flow.. and allow myself to continue loving this man, or should i back off until he gets his emotions in check.. i dont ever call him.. he contacts me just to see how i am.. he has told me that he has love for me and he cares about me.. but i know that his heart is still with his ex.. help please!!
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reader, chocoholicforever +, writes (9 February 2011):
things seem to be moving really fast. You've only been seeing him for 3 months and already you're pregnant with his kid and have met his son. And he's still not yet divorced and still not over his ex.
if it's only since last weekend that you think he's become distant, well it's only 3 days so far. that sounds too soon to be concluding that things have changed.
If he is indeed distancing himself, I think that's cause on top of going through a divorce and not being over his ex, possibly also missing his son, being faced with the very real possibility of having a kid with you is stressing him out. Divorce is a life changing situation, and so is having a baby with someone new. He's going through both at the same time which makes for a very stressful situation.
why not wait a few more days and see if he's still behaving differently. If so, then have a talk with him about whether he is ready to be in a relationship with you. It was very foolish of him to not use protection when having sex with you if he wasn't prepared to have a baby with you. Whatever he wants or doesn't want as far as your relationship, he needs to at least pay child support if you are pregnant with his kid.
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