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female
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36-40,
*nhappyandconfused
writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 years now. We live together and have been doing so for the last 2 or 3 years. Everything was great until we moved in without a roommate (about 6 months ago). Since then, my feelings towards him have changed. I feel like I am no longer in love with him and I have some resentment towards him. A few years ago (about 2 years into our relationship) he gave me a sexually transmitted disease. I don't know if he cheated on me or if he always had it and he never really had any symptoms but I don't think I ever forgave him and I feel that I don't ever will. I love him very much but I'm not sure I want to be with him anymore.He is amazing: he drives me around, cooks for me, takes care of me when I am sick, takes me out to dinner, is good with my friends and family. And so I know he loves me very much. He always tells me that I am the love of his life and shows me by the actions he does.I've also started feeling that I want to be with someone else. But every time I do, I feel incredibly guilty and that makes me think that I don't want to be with anyone else.The problem is that I don't know if I should continue trying, because it is wearing me out and if I leave how should I go about it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): Talk to this guy about how you feel and try and work through this together. Hopefully he'll be able to help you if you still after an increased effort still feel there's no chemistry or anything left i think as you've been together for such a long time give yourselves a break (decide together how long) to mull it over and spend sometime apart, if over this time you still feel you don't want to see him/be with him anymore i think it may possibly be time to consider saying goodbye. Good luck.
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