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writes:I was very close friends with a bloke I went out with for a period of about 3 months around 3 years ago. We were close friends before the relationship and close friends following it. However when he met a new girlfriend 2 years ago things became strained between us as she didn't like our closeness, and my own boyfriend was a bit wary too.She caused a lot of problems for me, contacting me via facebook and email (I live 3 hours away from this guy) because she felt threatened. It started as simple questions regarding our relationship, but quickly developed into more viscous contact. I had viscous text messages around the time of her contact, she had me removed from online social groups I was in because her boyfriend was in them too, she made quite horrid comments stating my boyfriend didn't want me around. I understood she was insecure so didn't kick up much of a fuss and just ignored her, but was slightly annoyed with her boyfriend for giving her access to the group to cause such trouble in the first place.I have since discovered they have split up, and have been contemplating contacting my ex to catch up. However I am apprehensive about it incase it causes more trouble just as things are settling down. I have the same boyfriend, who has no issues with him now, but Im still slightly irritated my ex gave this girl the information she needed to hurt me so much. Is it worth contacting him for the sake of our own friendship, or due to what he did should I just bury any kind of friendship we have. We have mutual friends and are bound to come into contact sooner or later, but its whether I make an effort to be friendly or just treat him as an acquaintance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am hung up on him because he was one of my best friends, both before and after the relationship, there is no romantic feelings for him what so ever. And my own boyfriend is aware I am thinking of contacting him and does not have a problem with it. I have many male close friends, but thats all they are, and if I chose to contact him, this would be what he was.
My issue is whether after him giving access for his girlfriend to insult me, after knowing she was upset whether it was right for me to trust him again, or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSoon your answer is offensive. I have never stated I wanted this man. I simply want to renew our FRIENDSHIP as stated in my question. Thank you for the other answers.
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reader, laetitia  +, writes (7 June 2010):
 I would go ahead and catch up with him. Who cares about her??? You shouldn't do what she wants you to do!
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reader, Vagn +, writes (7 June 2010):
 just take it day by day and see how things go and he shouldnt have gave his now ex that information but if you just ignored it it was ok and if you want to get in touch with him you go for it but be careful.
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