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writes: Ok I meet this guy at a party sat. night.I thought he was pritty hot and he was nice.Also he knew my cuz so I thought that is a pluse.so I got pritty messed up, and slept with him.What am I crazy I dont even know the guy.well I thought maby we can at least be freinds after words and that make it a little better.apperantly I thought wrong, but I thought college.I tryed to get in touch with him and he has made no effort back, but it was email.so should I call him or should do what i have been told all my life by parents and wait for him to chase me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2006): Most guys prefer the chase... so jumping straight into bed with this guy def wasn't your smartest move!
What ever you don't call him - that makes you look desparate!!! If he likes you in anyway he'll contact you but leave him do all the chasing.........
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reader, vina_101  +, writes (16 October 2006):
 Well first of all sleeping with the guy after just meeting him wasn't a great idea and I'm glad you know that. We all do crazy things sometimes and get caught up in the moment. But the thing is... having sex with him that night has jeprodised your chances of him seeing you as a friend. Maybe now he sees you as just a one night stand. That could explain why he has made no effort to contact you. Bearing in mind that he might only see you as a one night stand (and have no respect for you), I would let him call first. Let him make the effort. You've done your bit. If he calls then you know that you mean more to him that a one night stand. If he doesn't then atleast you will feel better about it knowing that you didn't chase him. Don't make him think he's important. If he can't make a simple phone call and has made no effort to contact you then that means that you are not important to him and that you don't matter to him. Therefore he's not worth your time.I'm not saying that this is the case because he might call you at some point, but you shouldn't think about him if he isn't thinking about you. It's not fair. Don't waste your time and effort on someone who makes no effort for you. If a certain amount of time passes without him calling then he's not worth it. Don't try and call him again, resist the temptation. Just Forget him and move on.
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