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writes:25th of may is his birthday but I cant get the courage to call and i don't know If I should.We broke up on the 9th of may, he said he didn't love me anymore from one day to another (literally, cause the day before he grabbed my hands and looked me in the eyes and said he'd never leave me cause I'm the one for him that he loved me ) he just changed.He doesn't want to be my friend and I'm not allowed to call or even try. If he calls it's in private and he only called once cause there was an earthquake and cause my friend nagged him.I don't know if to call him. I'm scared, I feel like I shouldn't even try...what should i do?
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (25 May 2010):
 Yeah, I know this hurts, but you should let it go and not contact him. The last thing you want to do after he dumps you is do something that he will perceive as you throwing yourself at him.
Instead, let yourself do a little grieving for him on that day with just yourself. Maybe get a couple of good friends together and go have fun to take your mind off of him. Girlfriends are awesome when it comes to making you feel better. Or, if you're like me, take some overtime or something to help you feel better and give you something to do.
You will feel better, I promise. There will come a time when you won't believe how much you used to be sad about him, and now you couldn't care less!
Hang in there...
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reader, PeanutButter +, writes (25 May 2010):
 I really hate to say this but I think you should let him go and not call him on his birthday.
While I know it is a sweet idea and may mean nothing other than a birthday wish, it has only been a couple of weeks since you broke up and he will still be raw from this - especially if he hasn't tried to contact you.
Try and take this time to think about yourself right now and focus on you. If you are ever to be friends with this guy again it will have to come in time and that will not happen overnight nor with a phone call on his birthday.
Be strong and hold in there. You will be OK!
Lots of luck to you xxx
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