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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I caught my boyfriend of almost a year sending a naked pic to another man. This came as a huge surprise because before this he has always seemed extremely attracted to me and wants to have sex all the time. He is kind of emotional and feminine in some ways, but we have always had a great sex life. I confronted him and he begged for me to stay with him saying he loves me more than anything, that he is not gay, is 100% straight and was just curious. He met the guy in class and says he did not have any other sexual conversations and never hung out with him outside of class. He says it was an impulse and swore many many times that he is not gay. I can't get over this and I can't stop wondering if he is at least bi. Is it normal to have these curious feelings as a man? Should I believe him that he is not gay or is this a huge warning sign?
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (8 January 2009):
 It is a warning sign.
He has doubts, and you would be a fool to build anything long term with him on the "hope" he figures it out.
If you are OK with dating a bi-male, or a guy that will one day realize he is gay and potentially leave you for another guy, then go ahead.
I wrote about this in my book Everything out of her mouth is a test, an entire chapter on women that got screwed over by guys that were secretly bi, or left them for other men.
Big red flag. Guys that are completely straight simply do not do those things. Sorry.
-Frank Kermit
www.franktalks.com
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