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writes:About 3 or so months ago, I started talking to a boy on the internet (a website called Tagged) we get on really well and are the same age. We talk pretty much every night on Skype/Facebook and sometimes text eachother during the day too. And before I get all the 'Are you sure he's who he says he is?', yes I'm sure. I have him on Facebook and I also know someone at my college who went to high school with him and says he's a nice guy.To the point though, I really like him, and I think he likes me back.. He hasn't directly said he does, but we've joked around about what might happen if we meet up.. He even stops playing fifa on his playstation to talk to me! I'm not too worried about the fact that we haven't met yet because we've both been busy lately and neither of us have had the chance, but we're hoping to meet in a couple of weeks (and yes I'll be taking a friend with me). What I'm worried about is that he still uses the website I met him on and he says he does to talk to a few other people on it.. Although he said if we meet up and anything more than friendship happens then he'll deactivate his account.. Admittedly I still use the website too, but I don't talk to anyone else on it.. Should I be worried that he might be talking to other girls the same way he's talking to me? I just want to know if I'm wasting my time or not..
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy main worry is that he might be talking to other girls the same way he's talking to me, and that he might just have a whole bunch of us that's he's just leading on.. Because I have friends who have had the experience of being led on by a boy whilst he's chatting up other girls, and not just over the internet, they've had it in real life too, and I know there's a lot of boys like that out there these days.. I just don't want the same thing to happen to me..
I'd ask him about who he talks to online and whether he chats up other girls or not, but I don't want him to think I'm one of those girls who gets really paranoid, because that'd probably put him off..
He's the first boy I've ever really had proper feelings for and so I don't want to ruin anything..
In response to person12345, I will be taking a friend or two with me when I meet him and we'll most likely be meeting in our nearest city because it's easier for both of us anyway because of buses etc.
In response to highmaintainance101, well he seems pretty genuine, and I've been talking quite a bit to the girl I know who knows him, and she said that as long as she's known him, she's never known him to tell anyone even the smallest lie and says he's a really honest and truthful guy.. So I guess that puts my mind at rest a little..
In response to Daisy_Daisy, that's why I'm hoping to meet him soon, we were going to meet at the end of the school holiday in August, but it turned out that the day we'd planned was my college enrolment so I was the one who had to cancel on him.. And since then we haven't had a chance because of college.
In response to Karlos5021, I guess it is a good sign that he's admitted to talking to other girls.. And well he did say a few weeks ago that he does like me as more than a friend, but at the minute we're really good friends and we'll see what happens if/when we meet..
Thanks for all your answers!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2012): Well I take it, its NOT specifically a dating site, but more a social networking or instant messenger thing, so even if he IS chatting to others on there, it DOESN'T mean he's chatting other girls up. He's also been honest with you about this, if he had anything to hide I'm sure he wouldn't tell you.
On the other hand, you are JUST friends at this point, so even if he IS chatting other girls up, he's hardly doing anything wrong.
You said he told you he liked you, but in what way? Friends? More than friends? Maybe you are expecting too much from this guy already and you haven't even met him yet.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (21 November 2012):
 You won't know whether or not you're wasting your time until you meet him.
You two are not in a relationship together, so I really don't think it matters that he talks to other people. He's being realistic; he knows that at the moment you're just friends.
I'm all for monogamy, but you can't expect commitment before you've even met. I don't know why you haven't met him yet, but really it's better to meet sooner rather than later (within reason) to see whether or not you get on well in real life. It's promising so far ... why not take the next step?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2012): Darling what can you expect from a guy you met online? its the same thing with guys you met in real. If he intends to flirt with someone new he would anytime he wants to. Even a married guy does it as well. So don't expect that just because he met you he will stop looking for someone new.especially your not even his gf yet. I suggest for you not to expect too much. how you are is not how he is. You could never compare an apple to a lemon. Its rare to find someone who will be faithful and loyal to you these days, you need to watch out and be careful with what guys says. Most of the time its LIES..How can you tell lies from real, easy. if he manage to do what he says he will, never disappoint you at all and most of all will never make lame excuses why he cant be with you.Take care and good luck
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reader, person12345  +, writes (21 November 2012):
 If you haven't even met yet, there's no reason for him to be taking down his profile.
Even though you know someone who knows him, you should use some common sense when you do meet him.
For instance, meet in a public place with lots of people around. Let someone know exactly where you are going and when you will be back and who he his, his name, phone number, etc...
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