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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Please help me, I have been very confused with what I feel and hear.I have known a boy for a little over a year, he never really talked to me in that year of time, but early this year, he started wanting to talk to me, and he sort of helped me sort through my emotions on stuff evne when I hadn't asked him to, he stepped up as sort of a counselor/shoulder to lean on of his own accord.We worked together in school, our relationship developed, based strongly on friendship, and he would offer to help me as much as he could, doing everything he could to ease my load.On valentine's day, he got me roses, dressed up in a suit...and he also got me a ring.He has done nothing that should make me think that he isn't 100% devoted to me...although the things my parents say (they are very strongly opposed to interracial relationship) they say that he is using me, that he wantsto win me, that he only helped because he had a motive....In my mind, none of the things have every shown anything except him being devoted to me.A while ago I did find some old emails of him talking a foreign girl who he hasn't met, and he said some things like his mind always being with her, and asking her what exactly their relationship was. He HAD told me about that in the beginning, in the beginning he had actually said that he had a girlfriend, but later explained ot me that he told me that to see if I liked him, and later he said he was really sorry for doing that, that he shouldn't have.I didn't feel like talking to him after i read those emails, because my heart felt like it'd been torn out. He seemed really messed up when I wouldn't tell him what was wrong...and when I did, he cried, and he asked me to forgive him, and said he was so sorry for hurting me, that he was stupid.Later and around, he told me to think of him as my guardian angel, that he loved me unconditionally, and that he would never leave. and that i would never have to share him, that he was here to remove all doubts and fears I ever had.A teacher I trust, said that he could see that my boyfriend cared so much for me, and that he was sincere, and he could see that in his eyes and through his actions. He has never blamed me for anything.But then what my parents say make me wonder if there is a chance that they might somehow be right.. although it kills me to think of that, and I feel horrible for even considering that for a second. I am close enough ot talk to him about the feelings of doubt that my parents have given me to him, and he has walked me through everything, and reassured me that no matter what he was not leaving, and that I shouldn't feel bad, because nothing was my fault, because I on my own had never doubted his love, that I had only done so when picked at by my parents.Given all this.... should I be worried about him? Do I have reason to doubt, or is it just because of the things that have been thrown at me?Thank you so much... my heart feels like it's being ripped apart. Reply to this Question
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