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writes:My wife of 10 years was texting with her friend last week. Her friend was going to a party at the home of my wifes ex boyfriend. My wife and I are both white and her friend and ex are African American. She told me about the party but when I read the text messages i was shocked. My wife said "can I come???! Omg u better call tomorrow to tell how it went. Take a pic of him for me!". The next text ended with "tell him I said hi and give him a kiss for me!!! Sssssssh! ;)"would u be mad? Should I mad and hurt? Help !?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (19 June 2010):
 Yes, it does sound bad. But the key there is SOUNDS, not is. Truth is when you go looking for something, you're going to find something. Not necessarily a real something, but something upsetting. I think it does sound bad, but really, I wouldn't read much into it. It does not mean she's cheating on you. I've said similar things to friends about exes and boys I used to have crushes on and movie stars oh and random boys I've met etc... and I'm totally committed to my boyfriend. If you really want to confront her you can. But be prepared to tell her why you were invading her privacy.
P.S. What does race have to do with anything?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2010): Make sure what you think is happening is happening, then GET MAD
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reader, romany  +, writes (19 June 2010):
 If you trusted her, you wouldn't have read her phone, and if you had, your first thoughts shouldn't be, oh my goodness she still wants her ex!!!!
Its not that different from any text i would write to a mate if she was going partying, I expect your wife would love to go out and let her hair down, regardless if her ex was there or not and as for the pic, maybe she is just interested to see how he is aging.
If its eating you up, your going to have to talk it out with her, but you'll have to tell her you invaded her privacy, and read her texts.
She left her phone available coz she had nothing to hide, i seriously think it was girl chat, and your making too much out of it, maybe you should work on your trust issues, or control issues, you shouldn't have felt the need to read her phone in the first place.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (19 June 2010):
 I think you are already hurt, and you do have a right to be mad. Sounds fishy to me...I think you need to at least confront her about it.
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reader, alex74 +, writes (19 June 2010):
 Absolutely you should be mad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2010): are you sure she was talking about her ex bf?
sounds more like someone had a baby and she wants to see it...
get your facts straight first before blowing up on her, you dont know for sure
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2010): should you be mad? I dont know. Would i be upset? Yes i would. Mal
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