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*lickyclick
writes:Hello, I'm a 14 year old boy and I'm having a little trouble with asking a girl out. I realy like this girl and would normaly ask her out. There's just one problem, just before school started she broke up with my best friend on the same day as I broke up with my x-girlfriend, and he took it badly. So baisically, the girl I love knows I love her and so does everyone else at school. She sort of flirts with me every now and agen but then agen I get loads of girls flirting with me. I really want to ask her out but I have become better friends with my best friend and i don't want him to fall out wid me again because this sort of happened before with another one of my best mates. But anyway I need some advice on what to do. Should I ask her out and risk losing my best mate and if so how should I go about asking her? I'm not even sure if she loves me... Thanks For Everything Clickyclick
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): hey im a 14 yr old girl i have the same thing what i did was ask him if he relly like liked me and he said he did then just to make sure it was okayy with my mate i asked her if she minded me going out with her ex she said she didnt care so me and him are together now but make sure your mate is okayy with it or you could loose him
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (12 October 2007):
Ask your mate for permission. Don't do it if he objects.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2007): Sorry but i think you are probably a bit young to know the true meaning of the word love.
I personally would not go out with her. I would want to hang on to my friends and chose someone who wasnt connected to them in any way. I would hate to lose a friend because of a past relationship, but that is me, so you have to decide for yourself.
take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2007): I think you're confusing the word 'love' with the word 'like'. Love is something which takes a long time to foster and is not something to declare at the outset of a friendship. At best, what you've got going on here is the start of a friendship. Love will come later if the friendship stays the course.
As for your best mate, why not ask him how he would take it if you asked his former girlfriend out to the pictures or something? If he says he doesn't mind, ask her. If he does mind, leave it a few weeks and see if he still feels the same. If he really is your best friend, he shouldn't mind too much - unless it was she that broke it up and he still has feelings for her.
An altogether better solution would be for you to forget about girls for the time being and concentrate on your school work, which will determine your position in society in later life and believe me, you only get one chance at it. Make the most of it while you can.
Phil
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