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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey everyone, I want to thank you all so much in advance for reading and responding. I'm having problems deciding whether to act on my intuition and would like to have some advice on how to proceed, as I have a bit of a 'deadline'.I've been having a crush on a girl I met some months ago. Although there were quite a few factors that could keep us from getting to know each other better, we did anyway and we've gotten closer especially in the last two months. I don't know if she's interested in me, nor do I know if she could be with a girl in general (she'd be my first, too, making it difficult for me to interpret signs). However, I have a few indications that this could possibly be more than friendship. Up until two months ago we hadn't met up with just the two of us. The first time we did, she arranged a picnic dinner(-date?). She had her hair done that same day. We text on a regular basis and she tries to keep me involved with e.g. riddles and questions, but is playing very hard to get(?) - sometimes doesn't respond for hours or even a couple of days but then we have hour-long conversations again. We've talked about sexuality, and how we both think it's fluid. Sometimes we keep eye contact for a few seconds without saying anything and then she shies away. Once when we'd both had a few wines, we wouldn't leave each others' side the entire evening and she was fishing to find out if there's anyone I like. Stuff like that. But in my opinion, all of this could also happen when just becoming friends?Now the thing is, in not too long I'm going abroad for a few months and we are meeting up 'one last time' coming week. Of course I'll come back, and I might have the chance of continuing where we left off then, but I guess my question is whether or not my intuition could be right in that she is indeed interested and whether it makes sense to act upon this and find out now, or if it's safer/better to wait until I'm back...?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (18 August 2013):
 There is no harm in expressing your feelings. Either she is interested or not and you can find out right now. While on the trip you can learn about each other in a platonic way. I do think that if you act on them now both of you will take this more seriously. She could be impressed that you are brave enough to do this even with the time constraints, that you have faith that the interest will still be there after a few months. Providing that neither of you are dating anyone else, I think you should tell her.
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