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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hi,Ive been seeing a girl for over 2 months now and been going out with each other 3 weeks now! the problem im having is that she is very shy when it come to anything sexual! when were alone i.e my room kissing, i would rub her leg and move my hand up, but she would just grab my hand and pull it back to her chest! Ive found out through her close friend she is not a vrigin and nor am , but im confused on why she doesn't want to do anything, we haven't even had oral sex!I dont want to keep doing it to her and have my hand grabbed away all the time but there really is no other way other than asking her why not, but i dont want to that because it would seem thats all im after and im not...I really like her!its starting to bug me a little!
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (6 March 2009):
 As some others suggested, it would be a good idea to "back off." It kind of signals to her that you are not pushy, for one thing, and better yet that you are willing to let her make the call when the time is right. It also provides a subtle hint that you may be softening your interest, even if you are not. This generates what may be called "fear of loss." This is a sales technique that sometimes works with relationships. You might even add a subtle hint that someone else has attracted your interest, but it becomes a very delicate balance. You must keep your primary focus on her, yet very casually indicate that someone else is seeking your attention. This is hard to teach or explain, so be careful because it may also drive her away. Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): how long she been doin this? if it aint long it might of been her period or didnt get waxed or shaved or what ever she does?? and she doon't know u well enough 2 tell u...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009): I have one word for you... COMMUNICATION. Instead of talking to her friends talk to her! Explain to her that you want to be close to her. Tell her that you really like her and how good it feels when you two are together. Only she can tell you what may be bothering her or her reasons!
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