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36-40,
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writes:The man im with said we cant be together as his ex might stop him having contact with his children. Even though he said he has strong feelings for him and i make him so happy his ex has done this before turned around and that she does not like one of his gfs so he can only see the kids once a week......he wants to be with me but his kids come first which i totally understand as he doesnt have to many rights to take full cust of kids.So my question is what do i do now?
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (24 June 2009):
 I'm inclined to hope that there is something in his divorce decree that stipulates his visitation rights. If this is all documented someplace, then she does have the right to change that agreement on her own accord.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 June 2009):
 Find a man who doesn't have a crazy ex.
Sorry, but he needs to grow a set.
I understand as a mother you would not want the father of your children to date/marry some one you don't like, because you might feel less inclined to let him see the kids, but REALITY is it doesn't MATTER if she likes the new GF. What matters is HOW the FATHER treats the kids and TEACHES the new GF what rules,boundaries and limitations these kids will have.
If he can not stand up to her for you, he isn't going to be worth a darn.
If she keeps trying to use the kids HE has options. Taking her to court. Getting COURT ORDERED visitations. Legally she can not use the kids in the way she does. She is doing it because HE is letting her.
I'm sorry if I sound harsh. I have been in your shoes. My husband's ex tried the same lame business. Didn't work for her that well, when he told her he would go talk to a lawyer.
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