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writes: I fancy this girl but i cant, pluck up the courage to ask her out because everyone (nearly) is after her.From Doug Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008): be your self ,,,be straight up she will always fall for a man whith courage an honesty,put your self out there
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2005): I agree with BJC, if you don't ask you'll never know.Think of yourself as the most confident guy on the planet, make her laugh, make her smile, pass her a compliment when she least expects it.I remember seeing a woman on the way to work in London. Stunningly attractive, stylishly dressed with the most wonderful eyes. It took me two months just to go up to her and say how everyday I saw her how gorgeous she was. She didn't expect that at 8am. I wasn't going to ask her out (I had only recently come out of a relationship) but every time I saw her we chatted and because we were on the same train everyday people obviously thought we were a couple.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (26 February 2005):
 Hi there,I know it's difficult to put into practice, but just remember the old cliche: "Nothing ventured, nothing gained"!In other words, she won't know that you're interested unless you say something. So if you *don't* ask her out, she's *definitely* not going to go out with you. So... just ask. She might be popular with guys, but I've heard that some girls are perceived to be so popular that NOBODY thinks they have a chance... and the girl spends her time moping that nobody's interested, because nobody's asked!Presumably, you know this girl a little, so play through all the possible outcomes in your head beforehand, so you can respond appropriately to whatever she says. Things like a) She says, "No thanks, maybe another time". Or b) "Sorry, but I'm already going out this weekend". Or c) "I'd like to, but I'm already with someone". Or - we hope - d) "That sounds like fun, thanks!" You won't be so tense if you feel like you have a response handy.Try to remind yourself that you're not addressing a living goddess here. She's only a girl, another member of the same species as you and me, and if she's the sort of person you think she is, she'll be gracious and kind, whether she accepts your offer or not.You'll be fine; don't worry!
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