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She's not ready for more than friends with benefits but I am!

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Question - (1 June 2008) 1 Answers - (Newest, 2 June 2008)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi, i wrote on here recently about getting back with an ex and the general message was that its a good idea.

We first got together over 18 months ago, and im absolutely crazy about her. I sometimes wonder whether she feels the same way but shes always says she does.

About a month back (this is about 6 months after we broke up) we met up for a chat as friends and ended up sleeping together. We're both single and i thought maybe it could go somewhere. Since then we've been casually seeing each other and its been going great.

I've told her that i dont want to be just friends who are sleeping together and that i want a relationship, even though i know it could not work out - but i couldnt not take the chance.

But shes said that shes not ready for that and she wants to keep it as it is. She says its because shes worried itll change things. I really dont understand why if she feels the same she wouldnt want this. Is she using me? Should i give up or stick with it? I cant get it out of my head.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

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A female reader, I'mheretohelpyou United States +, writes (2 June 2008):

I'mheretohelpyou agony auntWell, "friends with benefits" to me means horny people who don't know how to masterturbate. Umm, yeah I think she's using you....for the sex, ofcourse. I'd say drop her and get somebody else.

P.S., your obvisously better than her.

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