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writes:I recently heard from an old flame who I used to date about 14 years ago. She found me on Facebook. I Googled her a couple of times and saw that she was not married. But I didnt contact her because I didnt want to jeopardize her marriage. It was nice to know that she found someone and that she was doing well.When I knew her I was coming out of a horrible marriage and she was wonderful in helping me to get through that rough time. I was 37 and she was 21 at the time. I wasnt really into younger women but she was very mature and interesting. We both loved each other but realized that our love was doomed due to awful timing. She was too young to marry me and I was fresh out of my situation. So we parted company.In mid February 2011, I got an message saying "Hi Stranger...How are you?" We exchanged emails updating the other on what has happened since parting ways.I am still divorced and she is unfortunately married.I was uneasy about having concersations with a married woman but it was fun to remember our old escapades. One night about 2 weeks into talking. She starts talking about being lonely in her relationship. The husband doesnt touch her blah blah blah. Also saying that she regretted saying goodbye back them... So things at least in emails and sometimes on the phone got to where we were talking about possibly getting together sometime. But I reminded her that I do not date married women. She told me that she was traveling to Washington DC in a few weeks (March 19th thru the 24th) and asked me to come to spend time in DC with her (I live in SC now, fomerly NYC when she knew me) She offered to even pay for me to go. I told her that if something were to ever happen between us, that she would need to at least get a separation. I flatly refused to see her. She was telling me that she loved me and wanted to be near me again. I said "NO WAY!" She said that her hubby would never find out. That floored me. Had she cheated before? She sounded so matter of fact about it. And if shes doing this to him, what would she do when with me???Well since she got to DC and I wouldnt be a part of her games. She no longer says I love you or talks about forever. All I get now is "xoxo" at the bottom of her emails and she talks about having to try to fix her marriage and is all "jumbled" inside over this. My hunch is that perhaps the husband is not touching her and that she goes outside of the marriage for affection. I mean after 14 years she is contacting me?I think that when I didnt play into her plan to have sex in DC, she shut off all of the charm and love talk. A woman scorned huh? Thats just about all of what has happened other than me standing her up for a Skype date this evening. Every time i told her that i was in their way, she hated that. Now I cut off from contacting her and will continue without explaining to her why (for the umpteen time). I am backing off.Let me know what all of you think (be serious). I didnt lead her on nor did I engage her in an negative way. Thanx!
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